UPDATE – Well, this page was started years ago and sadly, I have neglected it. I lost a bunch of photos it seems and I have people to add. I am working on it now…so…more to come…
My daughter, Cassidy Rosita – Thank you for showing me what true, unconditional love really is. Thank you for your beautiful smiles and your sweet kisses. Thank you for making me smile even on my worst of days. Thank you for reminding me that life is always worth living and living well.
My mother, Becky DeGroot – Thank you for being the best mom you could be. I have been difficult through the years as I am sure many daughters are, but you have always loved and wanted what was best for me. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for being my parent when I was a child and for being my best friend as an adult.
My father, Edward ‘Marty’ Jocius – Thank you Dad for teaching me how short and precious our lives truly are. Thank you for your humor and wit. Thank you for watching over me as I truly believe you to be. I miss you more than I could ever express. There is so much I wish we could talk about…and you are really missing some excellent TV.
My stepfather, Randy DeGroot – Thank you for always being there when I need you. Thank you for helping me when I need it the most. Thank you for taking care of us all of these years. Thank you for being more of a father than our own father. Thank you for caring for us and loving us.
My step daughter, Mackenzie Eileen – Thank you for teaching me that it is possible to love and care for a child that is not of blood relation. Thank you for teaching me that patience is an important virtue to learn. Thank you for teaching me that we all need to be silly sometimes. I love you.
My brother, Chad Jocius – Thank you for bringing my beautiful nieces into the world. Thank you for not completely beating the crap out of me when we were kids. Thank you for your honesty. I hope we can one day regain our closeness.
My sister in law, Bess Jocius – Thank you for making my brother so happy. Thank you for taking such good care of my nieces. I am sure we will only grow closer and closer with each passing year. Welcome to the family!
My grandmother, Rose Byrd – Thank you for taking care of us and helping out my mother. Thank you for teaching me manners and how to clean. Thank you for hugging me and saying I love you that last time I saw you before you died. Thank you for watching over me.
My grandmother, Betty Berger – Thank you for all of your humor. Thank you for your openness and bluntness. Thank you for taking us to the pumpkin farm and Browns Lake when we were kids. Thank you for being fun. Thank you for watching over me.
My Step Mother, Jill Palmer – Thank you for taking care of my father. I know your life must have been very difficult for many years. But, you still stuck by him and took care of his needs, even as excessive as they may have been. I wish you nothing but love, fun, and peace in your future!!
My aunt, Sally Manzo – Thank you for keeping in touch from so far away after so many years. Thank you for letting me have that connection to my father’s family. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
My uncle, Mike Jocius – Thank you for trying to keep a bond with us. Thank you for not losing touch with us despite the actions of our father.
Tony ‘Ruben’ Serrano – Thank you for being my best friend for so so long. We have come in and out of each other’s lives so many times, but even after years I always feel comfortable with you. Thank you for your humor. Thank you for your sensitivity and your sarcasm. I miss you and I will always be here for you.
My ex-boyfriend, Jiro Kaisserlian – Thank you for being one of my first ‘true’ loves. Thank you for helping me through the death of my father. Thank you for being a loyal and honest boyfriend for 3 years. Thank you for becoming a lasting fond memory I will have with me always. You will always be a part of me. I think of you often and always hope that perhaps we could one day be friends.
Erin Rahm (Huston) – Thank you for always being there for me when I needed you the most. Thank you for never judging and always giving me the straight truth with compassion. You have helped me so many times. I miss you so much. Please come back home!!!!
Kim Emmrich – Thank you for being such an honest and open minded friend to me. And even though our friendship seems to have faded, know I will always be here for you and will always appreciate the many times you were there for me. It always meant so much and it still does.
Paige Putning-Kuypers-Davis – Thank you for being such a good friend for all those years. We had so many good times and when I think about some of the happiest moments in my life, you were there. Thank you for coming such a long way to be in my wedding and thank you for always being YOU. You will always mean so much to me, Paigella.
Brian Anderson – Thank you for re-connecting with me after so long. Thank you for being one of the very few people who actually take the time to read my writing. Thank you for being the friend you were all those years ago.
Chris Lay – Thank you for giving me some very fond memories. Thank you for putting a smile on my face every time I hear the song Daydream Believer. Thank you for those long late night phone conversations. And don’t forget…30 years…Bingo…be there!
My mother in law, Nancy Burke – Thank you for being such a great grandmother to our children. Thank you for being peaceful and putting up with my emotions. Thank you for raising such a good son who is capable of so much including being a great father.
Mark Thomas – Thank you for remembering my birthday those years when I was very lonely. Thank you for always having my best interest at heart. Thank you for the fun times and those too cute smiles. I don’t think you will ever know how much you really meant to me. I miss you.
Eric Schoene – Thank you for being my partner in my first real relationship and love. Thank you for being there with me when we were both learning our lessons the hard way. Thank you for always, no matter what state our relationship was in, making me feel pretty. There will always be a place for you in my heart. Honk honk..ding ding.
Steve Schoene – You probably don’t even remember, but years ago you showed me some wonderful acts of kindness. I will never forget this and often want to write you expressing my gratitude. Not only did you lend me the money to pay my phone bill, but you rode that scary Milwaukee bus with me all the way into the straight up ghetto to pay it. You treated me very kindly when I was in a dark time and you never made me feel like a loser because of it – please know, it will never be forgotten.
Kevin Nuernberger – Speaking of acts of kindness…there has probably never been a sweeter kinder person ever in my life. I so regret the way I let our friendship sift thru my fingers like golden sand. I miss you emmensly and can only hope for a day when you will reappear into my life. You were there for me during such gloomy times. You treated me far better than I ever deserved. Thank you, Kevin, please never think for a moment I have forgotten your hugs and kind words.
Charles H. (Grand Father in Law) – You were the closest thing I had to a grandparent in a long time. And even though we were not particularly close, I will miss you a lot. I know you are now in a better place and watching out for us. I also want to thank you for having a special place in your heart for my daughter. “Rosie”, as you called her, will also miss you. Thank you also for reminding me once again to take the time we have NOW to spend time with, appreciate and share with our loved ones. Time goes by much too quickly and I don’t know why we need to be reminded of this so often.
Maureen Troy – Since working together at All Saints many moons ago, you have been a great friend and supporter. You could talk me down from a panic attack like no one else. I am so glad we have reconnected and I so appreciate the wit and empathy you bring to my life. I cannot tell you how many times you have helped me in one way or another.
Margaret Tungseth – You spend hours trying to undo what years of craziness has imprinted into my brain. I thank you so much for your understanding and straight up honesty.
Dr. Lisa Wolf and Her RNs Vicki and Denise – Thank you for being so kind and compassionate. Thank you for taking such good care of me and my family. Thank you for always treating me with respect and dignity. Through the years you have done so much for me, please know it is so very appreciated.
Jack Plate – Thank you for seeing in me what I have wished for so long for people to see…even myself. Thank you for reminding me that I do have good qualities and have the capability of living a true authentic and meaningful life. Thank you for teaching me that paddling upstream is so much more difficult and quite unnecessary – I am trying more and more each day to simply let the tide carry me. And thank you for making me realize that the only true way to get over my fear of death is to live well. Thank you for so so much.
Phil Gister – I want to thank you for giving me something/someone to care about during a time in my life I cared about close to nothing. Thank you for reminding me that we sometimes do get second chances in this life. When you were in your accident, I was so truly worried about you and your future. You brought back to me a compassion I thought I had lost. I am so glad to hear you are doing well. I hope you take complete and full advantage of this second chance you have been given.
Laura Garner (Coulthard) – I have not seen you in over 12 years. Thank you for being one of the best friends I ever had. I often think about if you were still around, how we would be so close now. I miss you and hope one day to find out where the hell you are! UPDATE: I have found my friend Laura and couldn’t be more pleased. Unfortunatly she lives 3 hours away but at least I now know where she is, we are in contact and I won’t let her disappear again
Mrs. J. Belland – You were my Journalism teacher in high school. You were brutally honest and I always appreciated that. You gave me a chance to write and express my opinions. You let me know that I was meant to be something. And I hope one day I can show you that I have done just that. Thank you.
Karen Rahm – You took me in when I needed a home. You treated me as one of your own. You helped me when I was in such a bad place in life. I am so sorry you are gone, but I know you are happy and pain free now and able to watch over all those you love. Thank you.
As I said, I am leaving people out. And I will continue to fill in the missing ‘thank yous’ as they come to me. This blog will be an ongoing tribute to the people who have made my life what it is today and what it will become. There is a special place in my heart for all of you.