Today a friend of mine dropped of a couple things for me. She had a toy laying around the house that she didn’t need. So she brought it over for Cassidy (just turned 6) with the other stuff. When they came home I casually handed it to my daughter. About a half hour later my 10 1/2 year old step daughter came out of her room for dinner. She was bawling. She was upset that SHE didn’t get one. The toy is for children much younger IMO. I did not go out and seek to buy it for my daughter. And there are many times my step daughter gets things or gets to do things that my daughter cannot do. Not to mention she gets double (actually triple) everything because she gets tons from her mom and that side of the family.
Her father asked her what was wrong and she said she was upset because she didn’t get one and doesn’t have one yet. It is a sleeping bag for a Zui Zui Pet. Nothing major AT ALL. She kept going on and on that it wasn’t fair – crying like a 5 year old. Her father coddled her a bit and said, “Maybe you can trade or something.” And then he had the nerve to say (to just me quietly) that I shouldn’t give Cassidy something if I am not giving Mackenzie something. It took everything I had not to blow up at both of them.
Anytime Mackenzie has gotten something and Cassidy didn’t…Cassidy acts happy for her and understands certain situations. Plus she has to watch Mackenzie bring her constant parade of new toys from her mom to the house. And she is FIVE years younger.
Am I so wrong in my thinking that not everything in life is 50/50 equal fair world all the time? Are there not times when one child will get something the other does not? Mackenzie is going to yet another sleep over that Cassidy cannot go to. No one is protesting that.
Am I so wrong to expect an almost 11 year old to act her age and not like a spoiled brat? The girl wears Calvin Klein underwear, tons of Justice clothes and gets everything she wants at her mother’s house. Am I obligated to do the same because those are now her expectations?
I am very frustrated. In the end, she was allowed to behave this way with no consequence.