I do not know why I continue to visit Journal Times blogs. They are hate filled and venom spewed words which have the simple and only intention to hurt others. And regardless of the topic, it will ALWAYS – and I do mean always – come down to Liberals vs. Conservatives or Dems vs. Reps. I mean, the post could be about the weather and 4 different commenters will go into sermon about how the liberals caused the rain. It is like visiting an asylum…and YOU begin to feel a little crazy yourself. And since those blogs are pretty much dominated by religious conservatives – you will find the word “liberal” in a not so nice context in every post. I defy you to find one without it LOL. It is insane.
Yesterday on a particular BLOG, my personal blog (this one) was referred to as “perverted” and I was referred to as a “weirdo” among other things. On this post, I did know I would not be met with friendly views. But by this point, I could give a shit what any of those extremists think anymore. I cannot even waste my time or energy in defending myself. It is pointless.
But it makes me think about how politics is constantly in the forefront of everyone’s mind. It is all so many want to discuss. It is the only thought residing in so many brains. This, to me, is scary and unfortunate. I think it is wonderful for people to be aware and involved and to genuinely care. But it is becoming an obsession. It is ruining relationships, personalities, family functions. friendships…it is affecting so much of each part of our lives.
Believe it or not, there are other things to speak about…think about…consider…care about. Is it not possible for two people of opposing political views to become unified for ANY purpose? Is it not possible to see good in another human being even if they do not vote the same way as another?
America’s conversation has become a civil war of words. We are more divided than ever and many do not think of the consequences of their dagger filled dialog. So many do not consider that their anonymity does not secure anyone from the words they choose. I am not saying I have no guilt in this. I get angry. I say things without a filter A LOT of the time. But I can say that I do not unprovoked go around trying to hurt other people. Some of the things I say…some of the views I have may be offensive to some. But it is never my intent to hurt a person without cause. Yes, if someone attacks me personally…claws will come out. Hell, I’m Italian. And yes, with Kathy Griffin and Chelsea Handler being two of my idols – I have quite the potty mouth and I easily say exactly what I think…but I am okay with that. But I use my real identity. I do not hide behind a wall of anonymity so that I can spew hate without consequence. I do not unprovoked start attacking people based on their views. Are there things I can and probably should do a little differently, perhaps. I am not free of fault and will never claim to be. But I am not a monster as some of these people represent themselves to be and all the while trying to adopt that title to others.
Let me give you an example of how words from a stranger can greatly effect one’s life. When I was charged with Child Abuse (falsely accused I have to add) there was a blurb in TJT about it – online. The commenters went NUTS with lynch mob mentality. Thankfully, no names were used. However, the commenters sure wanted to know who this horrible stepmother was. I was to be burned at the stake. They wanted my head due to a paragraph which had not one true statement in it. There must have been over 30 comments to this effect, if not more. I broke down. I couldn’t handle reading those words – which were about ME – and having no control over what was being said, reported or happening in any way. I cannot tell you the pain it caused. It is the first real time I truly considered suicide. Being a mother was all I cared about. It was who I was and I took great pride in that. I knew I was a good mom and certainly no child abuser. But what I knew didn’t matter at that moment. I could only hear the words being typed behind avatars and usernames.
When I started my EMDR treatment for PTSD, this is the moment where my therapist wanted to begin. It affected me more than even I knew. I could have ended my life that day. And ultimately it would have been somewhat due to the slashes these commenters on The Journal Times site left in my mind. Because of this, I will always be careful not to jump to judgment when reading an article. I will be very careful to never join in a witch hunt with my words.
As Jon Stewart has taglined his upcoming Rally to Restore Sanity – Let’s take it down a notch, people. Today, being Peace Day, I would like to free myself from conflict for at least these 24 hours. I think that we should all give it a try. Let us put aside our differences and disagreements for one day and see if maybe it causes a desire within to maintain a level of civility, restraint, serenity in our discussions. Who knows…perhaps this is a futile, childlike idea…but for the rest of this day, I shall give it a go.
- Rally to Restore Sanity Attendance Figures Estimated, Massive (thehollywoodgossip.com)
- Jon Stewart Goes Glenn Beck With Rally (cbsnews.com)
- Jon Stewart Announces “Rally To Restore Sanity” (perezhilton.com)
- Jon Stewart’s Rally to Restore Sanity; Stephen Colbert to Hold Rally to Keep Fear Alive (rightpundits.com)
- The Meanest Commenters on the Web (thedailybeast.com)